Grief is what we experience after the loss of something or someone dear to our hearts, As we move through grief it may bring to us what appears to be an unending supply of tears. This is not a sign of weakness. Nor,is it a lack of faith that in the depths of that murky river of pain that we will all know and need to navigate through at some point in our lives.
Grief can come in to us in various forms, such as loss of a relationship or job, I am speaking about the grief we come to know when a loved one has passed on. When I watched my grandmother fight for her life battling cancer until she could no longer, I knew it was her time to move on and I needed to let her go. She had played a very important role in my childhood. She once told me she believed we were "soul mates". Indeed we were. The last time I sat with my grandmother we held hands as she laid in her hospital bed. She looked over at me weeping and said, "Stacy, now, don't you waste no time grieving for me.life's too short and I have had a good life." I have tried to honor her request. I have, of course, fallen short.
Over the years, the tears have lessened. Yet, they still come to me. I have found that I am able to truly celebrate her within my grief. I know that seems contradictory. It may seem a strange parallel that I can embrace this sense of great loss and the wonderful gifts that she enriched us with simultaneously. There are many ways that I remain connected to her. For one, I speak to her several times a week. I may light a candle Affirmations Grief candle is my favorite . When I do this, I like to use a picture of her and a hand stitched handkerchief that belonged to her and say a simple prayer, ( I swear to you , I can still pick up her scent on that handkerchief). Using her personal items has allowed me to start to transition from grief to use this time to "honor" her. I would like to think that she would love that her life is celebrated by me in this way, Somewhere, she is watching, and this gives her an abundance of joy in knowing I have found peace and comfort.
What are some ways that you have found helpful in dealing with grief? What do you do to celebrate and honor the lives of those who have passed? Leave your comment below. We would love to hear from you.